This past summer was one of my hardest to date. Work got busy for Max starting in about April and here we are, in October, and I have no idea where the past 6 months went. I spent about half of a span of 12 weeks alone with the baby. Even when Max was in town, he often worked late and missed dinner/bedtime with Knox so it was all me. When festival season started we had a cute, cuddly baby that was just starting to crawl. Now it's over and we have a full blown toddler running around our living room. Add to that my own busy job and suffice it to say, I am tired.
Not only did my poor husband miss seeing our little guy all of that time, but we missed seeing and talking to each other. Max and I have been best friends since the beginning. We've always shared the details of our days with each other. But now, after a summer apart and a 1 year old toddler ruling our days, I often feel like we barely get to talk.
On a recent morning after dropping Knox off at daycare, I called Max on his cell phone. I think in the course of the hour we had together before leaving the house that we said only a handful of words to each other. And, they were things like...
"It's 7:30, he slept late. Get up."
"Either get him dressed or feed him. I'm going to shower."
"Love you. Have a good day." (said through rolled down window of my car, accompanied with a quick kiss)
Our phone conversation went about like this
Max: "What's up?"
Me: "Nothing, we just didn't get to talk this morning."
Max: "Oh, Hi!" (read tone: surprised and then understanding)
Now that festival season is over, I am hopeful and excited for the fall and winter. The slow season. The season of reconnecting, of vacation time, of family time. So, to kick off this new season I wanted to share my wedding vows. They make me happy, they give me hope.
"To quote one of our favorite reality TV shows, Bethany Ever After, 'I am a difficult human being.' I think most of the people here today know that to be a fact and you most definitely do.
I can be a bit of a princess, I am very demanding and I have what my mom might call a 'smart mouth.'
Most people don't get past these barriers. Most people never really get to know me.
But, you not only know me, you have become a part of me.
You know that deep down I want you to push back and not let me run the show.
You know that sometimes when I put up a tough front that what I actually need is a hug and some encouragement but I can't quite ask for it.
I love you for taking the time to know me and always being so patient, kind and loving. You have never pushed me to be anyone other than exactly who I am but you do push me to be the best version of myself that I can possibly be.
You are one of the most genuinely amazing people that I have ever met.
I feel so honored to be marrying a man that no one can think of a single negative thing to say about. You are my best friend and I love you more than I ever imagined was possible in this life.
I can not wait to call myself your wife.
I can not wait to have children with you and I can not wait to grow old with you.
I love you so much."
So, to my husband, after a busy summer I say: I'm so excited to spend the first full weekend with you in over a month! Pumpkin patches, movie dates and bagels here we come!
xoxo, Ashley
Not only did my poor husband miss seeing our little guy all of that time, but we missed seeing and talking to each other. Max and I have been best friends since the beginning. We've always shared the details of our days with each other. But now, after a summer apart and a 1 year old toddler ruling our days, I often feel like we barely get to talk.
On a recent morning after dropping Knox off at daycare, I called Max on his cell phone. I think in the course of the hour we had together before leaving the house that we said only a handful of words to each other. And, they were things like...
"It's 7:30, he slept late. Get up."
"Either get him dressed or feed him. I'm going to shower."
"Love you. Have a good day." (said through rolled down window of my car, accompanied with a quick kiss)
Our phone conversation went about like this
Max: "What's up?"
Me: "Nothing, we just didn't get to talk this morning."
Max: "Oh, Hi!" (read tone: surprised and then understanding)
Now that festival season is over, I am hopeful and excited for the fall and winter. The slow season. The season of reconnecting, of vacation time, of family time. So, to kick off this new season I wanted to share my wedding vows. They make me happy, they give me hope.
"To quote one of our favorite reality TV shows, Bethany Ever After, 'I am a difficult human being.' I think most of the people here today know that to be a fact and you most definitely do.
I can be a bit of a princess, I am very demanding and I have what my mom might call a 'smart mouth.'
Most people don't get past these barriers. Most people never really get to know me.
But, you not only know me, you have become a part of me.
You know that deep down I want you to push back and not let me run the show.
You know that sometimes when I put up a tough front that what I actually need is a hug and some encouragement but I can't quite ask for it.
I love you for taking the time to know me and always being so patient, kind and loving. You have never pushed me to be anyone other than exactly who I am but you do push me to be the best version of myself that I can possibly be.
You are one of the most genuinely amazing people that I have ever met.
I feel so honored to be marrying a man that no one can think of a single negative thing to say about. You are my best friend and I love you more than I ever imagined was possible in this life.
I can not wait to call myself your wife.
I can not wait to have children with you and I can not wait to grow old with you.
I love you so much."
So, to my husband, after a busy summer I say: I'm so excited to spend the first full weekend with you in over a month! Pumpkin patches, movie dates and bagels here we come!
xoxo, Ashley
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